101. I need to get to the bottom of this: who elects who and who serves who in my HOA?

OK – lets outline this in the simplest way.

The members  elect the directors who serve at the pleasure of the members.
The directors elect (and at times appoint) the officers who serve at the pleasure of the directors.

 For example: two key West Virginia codes cover this with:
CHAPTER 31E. WEST VIRGINIA NONPROFIT CORPORATION ACT.
ARTICLE 8. Directors and Officers.


CHAPTER 36B. UNIFORM COMMON INTEREST OWNERSHIP ACT
§36B-3-103. Executive board members and officers. and

§36B-3-106. Bylaws.

TIP: follow your governing documents – not all governing documents are the same.